How to convince resistant LD wife?

[Ambivalent]

SSMG,

I brought up the conversation about dating, the one about which I previously wrote . He was feeling me out when he said " I don't want to keep you from any activities if that's what you meant? ".That was when I asked about jumping his bones and would I need protection?


So again it's hard to tell where he is, MLC. He's confused and admits it. Doesn't want to "lead" me on...yadda yadda...
As for how he would feel about me seeing other men, well he wouldn't let on. It would give too much away. He has always said he loves me, has treated me so. Initiates hugs and just recently the kiss on the mouth.
So, I don't think I can give you anymore with which to work.



Back when we were first dating, many years ago, after six months we had sex.

One of his friends asked for my number and he gave it to him.
I was shocked that he would do that, and I confronted him about it. He said back then, he was caught off guard so he gave it to him.

I went out with the guy. I also told him not to give my number out to anyone without asking me first!

It's going to be tough, for I don't know anything about this "Julie". He had the opportunity to say something but he didn't, other than he's meeting people. Still insists that he isn't and hasn't dated.
Yet has been using Viagra! So as a guy...who isn't "dating", keeping Viagra in the car so he can pop a half a tab. before going somewhere , is this in hopes of getting lucky? Or does it mean he is just screwing around, and that does not constitute "dating" ?
Yet he has given his number to a "Julie"
AAAugh, I have to stop this...don't want to give power to the unknown!