Hi all. I'm new here.

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It's insane how some people can be consumed by their phones. It's one thing to play games on it and pause it while entering a conversation. But something completely different when I can't even say something because she's texting someone.

It just [censored] because she has these stories in her head about me. She thinks I'm paranoid, that I'm thinking that she's texting some hot dude. I can't tell her that she's missing the point because by the time I mention the word phone to her, she's in full on defensive mode.

I just have to keep thinking about the positives that have happened... She's coming to the wedding social with me(her 2 friends as well), she invited me to her Xmas party but she might just skip that and go straight to the wedding social, she asked me out to a pub on Friday night. Just me and her. That was a crazy night as well. I might as well tell that story. So we're out having a good time. We're getting ready to go home when that douche from the other night shows up. He's with a few friends and they're chatting her up. He introduces himself and then he proceeds to tell me his life story. Like I give a crap. He tells me he saw her at the bar last week(another night she invited me out). Says hes known her from her work and was scared to talk to her. He just recently had the courage to talk to her. He's telling me about her, when I interrupt and say "ya I know all about her, I made a baby with her". He continues on about himself and how hes been texting her. I ask him what the odds were that they end up at the same pub. He tells me good. So now I'm getting pissed. I asked him "the odds were good!?!?", he immediately tries to backpedal. Did my W knowingly ask me to come out here to meet up with this douche? I'm thinking there's no way! So now we're heading back to the truck when I have this upset look. My w asks what's wrong. I tell her I have no right to be upset. She weasles it out of me that this douche has been texting her and he said the odds were good that they'd see each other tonight. She immediately gets angry. I'm thinking at me. She told me she had deleted his number and that his friend asked her to do blow. Now I'm getting furious. Nobody offers the mother of my child blow!! Freaking lowlifes!! Anyway, she's mad and storms out of my truck. I thought she was going home alone, but she wanted to find that guy and tell him off. I stopped her but I should've let her. Now he might try and apologize or sweet talk his way out of it. So that night was kind of exciting. It really felt she was trying to look out for my feelings or at least show to my face she wasn't interested in that guy. But who knows.

Anyway, there have been positives that I need to focus on and just forget this phone incident happened. Ill try my hardest to not bring it up.


Melissag... Are there things you tell yourself from telling your h to get off the phone? Like no good will come of it or do you just bite the bullet and go with it til he's gone? I need some sort of mantra. I think ill stick with, no good will come... Or maybe, she's gonna have a hissy fit and then I'm gonna feel horrible afterwards and want to cry because I've just taken a step back! That's a bit long though. Better stick with no good will come.