Don't know what to think

[T-boned]

WR, well you can hit me with a 2x4 if warranted. I called him on my way out of town tonight to tell him that by my saying I still thought we could work things out, and all others things referencing to that idea, was me coming from my place in all this. That I failed to acknowledge his reality in that he feels this is something he has to do to heal himself from some demons of his, and that I should not take this personally. He thanked me for that - I could tell he was trying to hold back tears as was I. I asked him to try and understand where I'm coming from - I've only had a short time to start detaching - that he's been at it for some time now, so to be patient with me. Also said I wanted to get through this with dignity and grace, to be amicable, understanding, and compassionate. He agreed. It was a rather bittersweet conversation - I could hear it in his voice this is not something he is taking lightly. He's hurting, we're both hurting, but he sees it as something he needs to do to heal himself. I just wish I understood what it is that's eating at him. But it's not my time to know. Feel like I put the final nail in the coffin by letting go. I truly feel like I have dropped the rope.