Hi all. I'm new here.

[melissag]

2TH, it's funny you should mention this - I was just complaining about this to a friend. My H is pretty obsessed with his phone, too. I don't think he does it to be rude, it just seems that (a) every minute of his time must be occupied with something (I mean really, he even looks on his iPad or phone while brushing his teeth!!); and (b) he is really interested in every text, email, or whatever that comes his way and makes his phone ding. He has the same compulsion to answer the phone or the front door - I have asked him a number of times if he thinks that it's the Prize Squad for Publisher's Clearing House waiting outside with a bunch of balloons and a giant check for $5 million.

You are right - you cannot comment about this right now. Just let it go. Tonight my H came over for dinner, and yep, he had to check that damn thing at least half a dozen times in 2.5 hours. It drives me nuts. It makes me feel insignificant - like I am not important or exciting enough to hang out with, without needing to know what else is going on in the world. But ever since BD, I say nothing. There is no point. It won't change anything, and it will just irritate him, I am sure. What I have done is to make sure that my phone is put away and I don't even look at it while he is around. At least I know I am treating him in a respectful way. I can't control what he does with his phone.

Don't worry about the step back. Get up and dust yourself off, and carry on with your good work. We all have backslides, and it's OK. You just need to save your ire for when she is not around and you can scream, yell, beat up on a pillow, or whatever you need to do to let your anger out.