GUILT IS IT A GOOD SIGN?

[tigerlily78]

I know I haven't been at this as long, so maybe that makes it easier. But once I found a few nuggets that made me KNOW the OW in my case is total damaged goods and had an image in my mind that wasn't "sexy" but rather disgusting I have held on to it for dear life. I don't want to think about her. She is almost less than human to me at this point, why would I waste time thinking about her? She doesn't deserve it. No OW really deserves the energy or time it takes for us to think about them.

Maybe it also helps that in my case I keep having dreams where AFTER OW gets dumped she does something nuts, like shoots my H in a public place. So for me the emotions surrounding her are that she is damaging, monstrous, dangerous, destructive ... not at all alluring except in a really superficial and trite way.