New to the board, fairly newly LBS from MLC.

[LoisB]

Ok. Then, I say think very carefully and get as many opinions as possible about the money before you broach the subject with him.

I know it stinks to do nothing. But, for now, it's the best course of action.

Put it out there tomorrow on the boards that you are trying to come up with a financial plan. I'm sure you will get plenty of help.

I would strongly consider seeing an attorney. Just to get the facts. This has nothing to do with the relationship, just the finances.

Within a week of my H's leaving, I put together a budget. I told him what I felt he was responsible for and made copies. His dad is an attorney, so I knew, at that time, I was covered.

H agreed to pay the amount I suggested.

Sleep on it. You don't have to rush into anything. Your H sounds pretty content right now and that's good. Let him think you are just cruising along with whatever he suggests. Time is to your advantage.

I hope you can take it easy tonight and sleep.

None of this has ANYTHING to do with you. Really, this is a journey he would have taken no matter how perfect you were in this relationship. Reading the archives on here and Cadet's suggested reading will really help give you some peace of mind.

Maybe give yourself the week to sort out the finances. Then you have a deadline to get it done, within reason.

You have had such a shock in this last month, pamper yourself.

It gets so much better. I promise.

Heather