New to the board, fairly newly LBS from MLC.

[tigerlily78]

Thanks Heather for your perspective. I know he is a zombie. It would be so much easier if he acted like a zombie, not someone who sits in the other room laughing hysterically and clapping and hooting and hollering at a video like life has never been more swell.

So should I write something up about his "commitment" to keep paying the mortgage and utilities here and ask him to sign it? And then give him an estimate of what I think is fair/necessary for our other expenses and have him commit to that too and how/when we should receive it?

I am a little worried this will be construed as pressure or me "being a greedy B**tch who only cares about the money." I feel like I have to be really careful about framing it properly, or he is going to read more into it than is healthy: "she doesn't trust me to keep my promises (fairly true at this point)" or "she doesn't care about me as long as I keep paying the bills (not true)."