I just went through the mortgage stuff. Ours was three months behind and I modified the loan. I can help if your name is on the mortgage. If he is the primary mortgage holder and you are the co-signer, then you can get permission to work with the mortgage company yourself.
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If he is feeling guilty right now, then I suggest putting a budget together and come up with a set amount you want him to pay monthly to cover the mortgage and support for your son, etc... Get it in writing.
If you can afford legal counsel, get it. THEN, you can kick him to the curb if you still feel it's what YOU need. Seeing as how the two of you aren't married, it's really important you get something in writing.
Keep your cards hidden, though, if you sense he will get scared and change his tune.
I gave you info based on my situation. Read as many threads as you can muster right now. Lots of reading. I'm sure you did lots of reading on Asperger's, well, now it's time to read about MLC.
There are situations where having the H at home is the best case. Don't make a decision based on one person.
You can handle this. Get your ducks in a row though first, so you and, more importantly, your son are protected.
For me, dwelling on the exciting part of this journey helps. I'm excited to create my own life.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
