New to the board, fairly newly LBS from MLC.

[tigerlily78]

Heather, You had me convinced I should tell him to pack his bags... and now you convinced me it's not a good idea!

Oh the Humanity.

The reality is our mortgage is underwater, so I kind of have a feeling that he knows he is on the hook to keep paying for the house anyways. It's not like he would make out better by selling it. And I can tell paying the mortgage and the "taking care of me financially" is a means of allaying his guilt... it may even be some selfishness on his part because he wants the safety net of somewhere to live if OW breaks it off with him. :P

I guess it is not something I need to do right now, that option is always there for me later on if I really do feel like he is stuck and milking both situations. I guess I am just feeling like inevitably he is going to decide to move in with her for real, right? Why should I wait around and let it be on his terms? Isn't letting him keep a foot in both worlds just enabling him to not accept the reality he has chosen?

This MLC stuff [censored]. I wish there was one right answer to any single situation!