session with coach was good. I am glad I had it. we discussed thanksgiving. Do I invite h or not. The kids will want him there. we are amicable. there is no ugly stuff.
However, my dilemma... h has filed. shouldn't I start a new normal?
I will discuss it with s20. this has had the greatest impact on him. will it be weird for him if h comes? when h moved back home last July, s20 went and stayed with friends. I did invite h last year. he came for the meal, then he and boys went to a movie.
my thought today. I still want to be amicable. Perhaps I will just say...plan to eat at 2, if you want to join us. Leave it up to him... Is this me not letting go? Is this me being chicken to set a boundary? H has chosen to separate from our family. Sorry, but can't have it both ways.
I will have next session with coach after Thanksgiving.
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
