GUILT IS IT A GOOD SIGN?

[reachingHigher]

My goal is to stop talking when someone touches their phone, and see if they notice. I won't try and compete with a phone, nor will I accept the rudeness.

I will either walk away if I can, or just go silent. No nagging, no emotion, just matter of fact.

I actually tried this a couple of weeks ago. H asked me what was wrong after he got home and I was acting a little peeved. I had some complaints about one of our sons. We went in the bedroom and shut the door. I spoke about 3 minutes and then he picked up his phone and started using it. I stopped talking.

After a while he got up to walk away with the phone and said are you done? I said I was b/c he stopped listening and started using the phone.

He said he started using the phone b/c he had tired of what I had to say!

I wasn't able to have the "no emotion, just matter of fact" reaction, that you mentioned, that I would've wished! I asked if he did that to work colleagues or friends and he said sometimes which is probably true!

Its something you have to really let go of, and IMO, only use control over your own time....not judge someone else's. So difficult!