If I kick her out, or D, then that gives her the "out", and no responsibility in her mind. She is the victim.
Ahh, that is a good point. Do you mind if I ask what sort of boundaries you've set and that the consequences are? I feel like my sitch is different than a lot I have read because of the OW and him not spending his nights here. He pays the rent and the utilities and groceries, I was not working outside the home before... so I kind of feel like I am over the barrel on boundaries.
The only boundaries I have set right now and that he is aware of is that I am not going to tolerate him texting and calling her in front of me and I don't want to find evidence of their activities in the common areas of the house or the car. So far he is doing decently with that.
Other clear boundary was that I am done having ML with him until he is sleeping at home consistently and has an STD test.
me-35 WAS-37 T-16 1/2 Son-14 (HF Aspergers) BD,ILYBINILWY,"I met my soulmate": Oct5,2013 "Letting go because I love him, holding on because I love him."
