Don't know what to think

[T-boned]

Hey Whiterose, thanks for the insight and kind words. I called a couple of lawyers within a couple weeks after the BD, met with a representative from our county's family court, and I've read up on California divorce law. It appears there should be no problems financially - we both want to keep it civil and go through mediation. Basically, I was told there isn't much to do until he actually files - just get all our paperwork/info together and when the time comes,sit down together and agree on how to split things up.

Ya, I think the card idea is not good - the less contact I make with his family the better. If they, however, contact me that's different. So I think I will stay quiet. They know. . .
I notice you got the BD 2 days after me. Going to have to look up your thread to get up-to-date with your sitch. I'm just sorry we're all here, but good to know we have each others backs.

You'll be hearing from me.

You take care, as well.