In-house mlc'er? Or out-of-house?

Both have advantages, and disadvantages. My sitch is in-house, but if she wants to go, I won't stand in the way.

If I kick her out, or D, then that gives her the "out", and no responsibility in her mind. She is the victim.

I set a few boundaries, the consequence of which was to kick her out, and interestingly, she hasn't crossed them to my knowledge.

It really cooks down to what works best for you.

Amb has some good stuff up there ^^^.

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