His reply was that while he is "meeting" people he is not engaged in sex. He is taking care of himself. He didn't feel comfortable leading anyone on, since we are still married.
Almost sounds like he believes in old fashioned values. Better to not tell him there are women out there today who are perfectly happy just having sex as friends with no expectations of it leading anywhere.
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He didn't want to keep me from any activity. I said I just wanted to know in case I want to jump your bones, would I need protection? He smirked/grinned giggled and did not say he didn't desire me.
That was a clever thing to say! You find out something you might need to know, and at the same time it implies you think he might be a stud and a player out there. Great ego boost for a guy going through a MLC. That's probably why he didn't feel the need to knock you down with another silly "I don't desire you" comment.
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When he was in the bathroom a Julie, called and that I wanted us to be open and honest in our communications.
Did this sentence get chopped? A "Julie" called when he was in the bathroom, and then you told him you wanted him to be open and honest?
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As he was getting ready to leave, I got a quick body scan. He came over and kissed me...I lingered and lightly sucked on his lower lip. His response was "troublemaker" in a playful and flirty tone. He left in a good mood...
I'd say you buttered him up pretty well and he's feeling good. Probably means a lot to him in his MLC. But unfortunately, an MLC is all about himself and how he feels. Not much room there for how others feel. It's my impression that he now feels he's got you on the ready and maybe some others out there too. So he feels like he's pretty hot and desirable. But he clearly finds you attractive too, though he's trying hard not to admit it.
It's the sort of situation that I think often eventually has the man coming back to you as he sees that the glitter out there is fleeting and empty, and he comes to realize that the long-term bonds he has with you mean more. But you can't easily talk a man out of a MLC. Many of them actually have to go through the process of getting the red sports car and the young girlfriend. But eventually the girl dumps him and he gets bored with the car.
