Your W is still on the 'unsure' phase. She's evaluating. At this point of juncture, there may be R talks. Use this time wisely. Validate like hell and don't defend yourself.
Thank you for the reminder Planet. This is really a big thing for me. I have always been the "fixer" how can I help my wife fix this problem. I need to just shut up, listen, and validate her feelings.
After I left the house today, I went to the gym and was super mad and at the beginning it fueled my workout. But now that I think back, as i got to the halfway point in my workout, and throughout the rest of the day, I just forgot about even thinking about my wife and our problems. I was just out and about thinking about me, and what I wanted to do.
Of course as it got later in the day, and as I got bored the thoughts starting coming back... but i guess it was a good 5 hours of relief.
Right now i'm having a little too much idle time, and starting to think about when my D and W are coming home... I feel like I should just leave and not be here when they get home.
