Many of the spouses say they want a divorce and then make no move towards one....I think they, at some level, know they're confused and like having someone in their back pocket just in case things don't turn out the way they like. You should meet with a lawyer on your own though. Know your rights and how to protect yourself.
You're not pathetic!!! you're hurting-BIG difference Things our spouses say/do change on a whim and most of the time we can't keep up so my suggestion is to do what is best for you and allow him to do what he needs to.
About sending the card, I wouldn't, but that's me....you need to do what is right for you. I'm sure some of the vets have ideas too.
take care
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