I know what HWA is trying to say and I agree If you don't move on from why she left you in the first place, instead of just accepting it, then when you find out something else like an affair it will leave you devastated as much as the first BD. By accepting that it is over like HWA did and moving on, then HWA found the latest sitch easier to accept Does that make sense? lol
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
If you don't move on from why she left you in the first place, instead of just accepting it, then when you find out something else like an affair it will leave you devastated as much as the first BD. By accepting that it is over like HWA did and moving on, then HWA found the latest sitch easier to accept 
