Don't know what to think

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I have been trying to live 'as if' for the past couple of months. I go out with friends - I have even done a few things on my own lately. I am working on understanding myself - trying to maintain a PMA, and working on not thinking about him or his problems. I don't contact him unless it is about financial things. Is that considered 'dropping the rope?' If not, I may need more information. As we all know it's just difficult to have NC with a person we used to be in contact with almost every day of our lives together.

My biggest issue right now is why he hasn't made any motions toward D if that's what he thinks is the answer.....

I thought about sending his family a Thanksgiving card but don't know if that's appropriate or he would see that as me being intrusive at this stage of the game. He says he wants me to be able to remain friends with his family -I'm sure he has/had visions of me in the future having Thanksgiving dinner with the tribe as a family friend. But my intention is to let them know I'm thinking of them, and more so, I don't want them to forget me. Kind of pathetic when I think about it.

Anyway, I'm leaning toward not sending the card . . .