2 year A confirmed

[complicated]

Just thought I would update what has been going on since I haven't posted in a while.

I have been seeing MIL and FIL every week. I saw my SIL last week and she said that her mom and dad like seeing me every week and that my MIL told her that I stop by and I have offered to help out. That was nice to hear.

H has not really made too much of an effort to see kids still. He takes them out to lunch or dinner every now and then but that's about it. He really doesn't say anything to me. I'm lucky if he answers calls or texts. Yet it doesn't appear that he has filed either.

I assume he is still seeing his new IC. He also went back on AD's which his IC suggested and he did not really want to do.

Not sure if he is seeing OW or not. D21 told me that H was very emotional when D21 said she wanted nothing to do with him if he sees her but he has gone back to OW in the past so who knows.

It just seems like H is so stuck. He is seeing a counselor but he doesn't seem to be getting anywhere. He has been going to counseling for a few years in fact. He tells me that he is unhappy and when I ask him does it have anything to do with me he'll say NO. I can't understand what is wrong with him and how he is going to get out of his funk.

I have been going out with friends a lot more. It is so nice to see and hear from people from my high school days say how great I look and how good it is to see me again. That makes me feel good. It is definitely helping that I am getting out more.

So nothing new going on. H still not making any progress. I think I need to resolve myself to the fact he may never get out of this. To think I have been living like this for about 3.5 years is unbelievable. If someone would have told me that I would still be in this situation I would have said no way.

Thanks for stopping in. Does anyone want to give me an opinion if my H seems like a lost cause? Am I a fool to still be standing? I'm starting to get very discouraged again. I just feel like we could go on like this forever and I don't want that. I am happy that I have made the changes that I needed to make. I am much happier and I feel like the kids are too. I needed to make those changes to become the person I was meant to be. There was a lot of validity in the complaints that h had. Of course I think he has made it seem like we never had any good times and that just isn't true.

Should I be making some kind of a move? I know TVS had a discussion with her H. My h never wants to talk and if I ever bring anything up he just clams up.

Comments welcome!!! Thanks!!