How to convince resistant LD wife?

[Ambivalent]

SSMG,

Well today was an interesting interaction with my H.

I told him I wanted to talk about something and it may not be comfortable for him.

I asked where we were with "dating" and casual sex. What were his thoughts.

His reply was that while he is "meeting" people he is not engaged in sex. He is taking care of himself. He didn't feel comfortable leading anyone on, since we are still married.

He didn't want to keep me from any activity. I said I just wanted to know in case I want to jump your bones, would I need protection? He smirked/grinned giggled and did not say he didn't desire me. I said I had been reading and researching and let him know I was interested. Not pushy, just in a flirty kind of way. Let him know I was wearing different undergarments and how they made me feel.
His eyes flashed and he said "GOOD!" in a higher pitched tone.

When he was in the bathroom a Julie, called and that I wanted us to be open and honest in our communications. He agreed, and again said he didn't want to lead "anyone" on. Went into too much detail about how he felt about engaging in casual sex or getting involved, that he was meeting different people...MIND READING ALERT...I

I don't believe a word he says, which is sad, because it was a very calm, matter of fact type of conversational tone from me.

So anyhoo, I took your advice and put myself out there, let him know.

As he was getting ready to leave, I got a quick body scan. He came over and kissed me...I lingered and lightly sucked on his lower lip. His response was "troublemaker" in a playful and flirty tone. He left in a good mood...

What's your take?