Ok well here is an update. Unfortunately i was overcome with emotions so i spoke calmly about the sitch. I was asked to fix a mobile phone and came across the message again. As i was sitting next to her i was very angry so i deleted the message and walked off outside to gather my thoughts. I then asked her if there was anything she would like to tell me, the reply was instantly defensive and what are you talking about. When i advised what i had seen she became angry and upset, accusing me of snooping. The old chestnut of guilt reversal. There has been total denial on her behalf and she has since deleted all facebook friends which has left me feeling pretty low and guilty for trying to work through it. We did discuss some things later today and everything seemed to pan out better as far as communication etc. i am struggling with the trust of her as she is with me. She feels i have snooped around for a while, which is untrue. I want to work on building trust even if it is just friends. I hope that the op is just a bit of excitement on her behalf and that maybe she feels she was almost caught and that it must stop before it begins. This is probably just wishful thinking for an ideal outcome. I am now GAL, making me look good, smell good etc going to the gym and cycling. I love my wife but i feel i need to meet some new people of opposite sex for friendship etc which gives me feelings of guilt but i need to do this so she can see what is really happening without looking at things with starry eyes and excitement. Again any thoughts are greatly appreciated
