Well, your H has got it in his head that all you do is complain and nag. I am sure that you do other things that are neutral or good, but right now in his mind, you don't. At some point, if you completely and consistently stop complaining and nagging, he will have to acknowledge in his head that his view of you is incorrect.
I'm still not sure whether you have an agreed upon system for who does what. If not, it might be useful to say, "H, things are a little crazy right now, and I'm not always sure how we are running things around here. I just want to make sure that we get everything done, especially when it comes to the children, and that I am pulling my load here. Can we try to figure out who is responsible for what so that we are both clear on it?"
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
