I hope you have made it clear to your H that while you are interested in reconciling, you are not going to take any further steps until he ends his A.
It doesn't seem to me that he should need 6 weeks to end it if he is ready to end it. If they were married, and he was leaving his family, I would understand waiting til after the holidays. With his mistress, to return to his wife? That shouldn't be the case.
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13