Well compassionate leave is classed as sick leave isn't it? I didn't realise you only got 2 weeks over there. No wonder you have so many bank holidays, lol
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Depending on the company, the boss, the reason for the compassionate leave, etc, sometimes compassionate leave will be granted over and above vacation and sick leave. Haven't seen it in my current company but in my last one, the manager gave one of the ladies an extra week paid leave when her mum passed away so that she could go back to the UK for the funeral (company allowance was 3 paid and 2 unpaid days).
If we'd stayed in the UK, I'd be up to the maximum 6 weeks vacation by now . I have a habit of booking my main vacation on a week with a bank holiday in it so that I only use 4 days instead of 5 - makes the allowance go a bit further LOL.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
The USA is notoriously cheap when it comes to vacation/leave. Come to think of it, we don't have enough holidays, either!
When I started at my company, I think I got 1 wk the first year, then 2. After 15 yrs (a miracle that I've lasted that long at one company, especially in the IT field) I've worked my way up to 4 wks. There's an option to purchase an extra week. I did that last year. If I wasn't so broke, I'd have done it this year, too!
I was so mad when a few years ago they made the policy 3 wks from the start - with some limitations based on accrued leave hrs, depending on when your are hired, blah, blah, blah.
And us bloody teachers, get it too easy. Thirteen weeks holidays every year, public holidays and student free days. Only work from 9 to 3 each day. Yeah right. Here I am spending my weekend writing up 400 report cards.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
I know how hard you teachers work, I used to work as a teaching asst at a school. The teachers were forever saying how much work they've got to do in the holidays. One thing though about teachers, they sure know how to drink and party, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Yes teachers are very good at drinking. As a new teacher they start off having a wine on the weekends. Which moves to a glass of wine every night. To a few glasses ever night. Finishing up with spirits every night. That is just the first year.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
I know one teacher who drinks 2 bottles of red wine on a Friday night! I can only just manage one bottle and that's at a push, lol. I'm a light weight when it comes to drinking.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I've now got a thread over at the MLC website that 2old sent me too I've posted this today and I'm awaiting a reply. It's not that I don't get any good advice from you guys, it's just that sometimes I feel that I need advice from vets and they're not posting on my thread anymore. Here is the message I sent: My h rang me today to arrange to take our son swimming tomorrow. He started on again about selling the house and says he needs the money to pay off his credit cards that are in his name only. He says that if I don't then the creditors will come round and take the house off us. I know that this is not going to happen as the house is in joint names. He asked me again why I don't want a d and I said again that I'm not ready. I don't know whether or not to tell him that I am standing for my marriage and God hates d. I am running out of things to say to him. He went on about selling the house and how the credit cards keep on at him. I've already mentioned about going to the advice centre and he said they won't do anything. I told him that I'm not going to discuss this any further until I get advice from the advice centre. He still went on, so I put the phone down on him. He's coming round tomorrow to pick our son up and will probably hassle me again. Is there anything that I can say to him. I could threaten him by saying that I'll go to the police if he doesn't stop hassling me or apply for maintainance from him. I don't feel that threatening him will be the right way to go about things. Has anyone got any ideas?
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Update: I've just been having a convo with H via text. He said he didn't want to get to the point where we hate each other - him hating me for not selling and me hating him for going on about it. I sent him a text back saying hate me all you like, I'm not selling! I've not heard from him again Oh yes and the other thing, he's threatening to kill himself because he's fed up of the credit cards. I think it's just idle threats, but was thinking of asking his mum just to keep an eye on him. Talking of MIL, she rang me last night. She said she still wants to keep in touch as I am still her daughter in law and she wants to go on holiday with me when her H passes away. I know that sounds bad, but he is 97 years old and she's expecting it. She also said how we've not had a decent holiday for years and I said it's not that my mum hasn't given us any money, it's because all the money has been spent on either paying off his CC or doing up the house. MIL said that she knows what my H is like and she can understand this.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Sorry to hear your H is being a pain about the house and money again. As far the threats go, I wouldn't advise worrying his mum by out and out telling her what he is threatening, but perhaps you can just say that you are concerned about him and he wouldn't tell you if there was anything wrong so would she perhaps keep an eye on him to make sure that he is okay.
Did you have a good relationship with your MIL before all this started? How do you feel about maintaining it? Just remember not to discuss the sitch with her. My MIL hasn't made any attempt to contact me or her grandson in months. I know she's been ill so I've not given it a second thought. We'll just have to see what happens at Christmas.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
. I have a habit of booking my main vacation on a week with a bank holiday in it so that I only use 4 days instead of 5 - makes the allowance go a bit further LOL.