New to the board, fairly newly LBS from MLC.

[tigerlily78]

Well, he did end up asking me again today if I wanted to go to lunch for my birthday. I graciously accepted this time and he let me choose the place. No time for a movie though, he had a busy work day. Maybe a raincheck for a movie in a couple weeks that we both want to see that is just coming out then.

Lunch went really well. We went to a place we used to go to a low. We used actually sleep in and have ML and then go to this place for "breakfast" even though they only serve lunch items. Right away when we sat down he reminded me of something funny that happened one time when we were eating there. We had a good laugh about that. He vented a lot about what's going on with his work. I listened attentively and asked questions where appropriate and validated. I strongly suspect OW is way out of her league to try and understand half of his work talk, so I think this was a much needed release for him.

No R talk. Kept it light and fun. Lots of good eye contact across the table. I felt like he was present in the moment in a way he hasn't been much lately. I thanked him when we got hom and told him I was glad we did it, that I enjoyed our time together. He gave me a one armed up, had the drink cup still in his other hand. I took it out of his hand and set it on the table, I told him for my birthday I expected to get both arms. He chuckled a little but didn't resist and I got a good tight hug. Then I let him go about his business and spent the rest of the day doing my own thing.

Later tonight when he was getting ready to leave he asked our son for a hug. Son gave him the lazy kind of hug. H told him "that hug was weak, give me a real hug, like this... a diamond crushing hug, not a wooden one." Ahh, so he is paying attention.