As for the rest of the stuff, my DB coach keeps telling me, "test and check, test and check." So - do something small to show her affection or attention or whatever it is she wants. See what she does. If she rejects it, pull back. If she seems to like it, try another small gesture.
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Thanks for this Melissag, I have really been trying to cut back on the affection i was originally showing. Sometimes i will get a kiss in the morning, but that seems few and far between. We still sleep in the same bed. I have not tried to initiate anything going on three weeks, I have however been trying to hold her every once in a while. While not responsive, she doesn't push me away either.
I think the wierdest part about the affection thing, is that even after the bomb dropped, we were still relatively intimate for about a month, and then everything just STOPPED. No kisses, no i love you's, no holding hands, nothing. It was the weirdest thing.
I want to talk about tonight. My wife is over at her good "friend's" house. While I obviously hate that she is there, and have said that i don't feel comfortable with her hanging out with him and his friends, we made a bargain. Or at least I thought we did. I asked her to be home by 1AM , but when she called just a few minutes ago, she made it sound like it MIGHT happen, she may be home by 1, she may not. She really knows how to push my buttons. I couldn't help myself. Of course i lost it. and then what does she do? Laughs. I"m glad making me feel like a piece of [censored] is so funny to her. I wonder how funny her daughter would think she is being.
I'm really trying to control my emotions, but i feel like i'm just not there yet. I have not conquered them.
I was having a relatively good day. Was in good spirits. Took my daughter to the pet store, and we looked around at all the animals and just hung around for a while. During this time Jack Johnson's - Better Together song came on. I almost lost it.
I hope everyone is having a better night than I am.
