I think we all go through a "I want to date phase", some follow through...others don't. Its totally up to you if you are truly ready to take that risk as it could result in your heart truly moving on from your W.

I thought about dating about a month or two after BD....I made an online profile....after putting in my wants I saw the options were very slim and sad lol. I deleted my profile b/c I realized that even the thought of a random man simply trying to hold my hand repulsed me.

A few weeks later ...i got the itch again... this time I texted and old coworker of mine that I always thought was cute and he doesn't live far from me....he texted me back and it just so happened he was working on a boat cruise and wouldnt be back in town for a month. I think that was God blocking that lol.....that month passed and I didn't even want to contact him again to see if he was back.... i realized it was my emotions at the time that led me to contact him...I wanted to hurry up and get over my pain and move on by using someone else to help me "move on" from my H...instead of doing the hard work of detaching and letting go on my own.


me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope