Fog City Coaster continues

[2ndtimearoundCA]

@fly .. You haven't updated your thread in a while. Do you still have some concerned about being watched?

I am taking some time to think. I don't have long to wait before my sitch becomes a little clearer. My birthday is Monday. My w text me on Father's Day and on our anniversary... If she doesn't contact me on my birthday, then that will be another strong message from her... At the very least I know not to initiate contact anymore.

Right now I need to put some legal protection in place. When she starts doing these unexpected and unpredictable things it worries me a bit about what else she might do.

[FlyOnTheWall]

Its been a week, nothing to really report, she told me last week she was ready and gonna file, Monday she told me she wanted to wait a little bit longer. /shrug

I'm just trying to give her space, what happens happens at this point. She's gonna have to do the work.

Your wife, like mine, just needs some space, they cant come back till the miss us right?

[2ndtimearoundCA]

Many of the situations have a lot of similar attributes. I think a lot of situations seem to fit perfectly with both MLC and WAS. I know the general thinking is that you do he same thing either way and I agree with that to a point.

I think that there are other things we can do besides letting them miss us to be attractive. But the opportunities for me may have passed me by.

While I am responsible for much of the failure of my M, I can't really point to anything I did to cause this recent change in my w's behavior. Even thought she would tell me she was totally done before, and she had no feelings for me, when I was with her, I felt there was a little spark left.

I'm feeling that spark fade into nothing now.

I think it is time for me to let go of hope. Seems like such a sad thing to say, but it may be the healthiest thing for me to do. Today I still love my w and that causes me pain.

[FlyOnTheWall]

I hear ya my friend, i'm close on your heals.

So sad for sure, it maybe that moving on is the healthiest thing I can do for myself as well. I'm very very close to allowing myself to put out that last flicker on the candle.

[labug]

Hey 2nd, I think you should do whatever you want to do in regards to contacting your W, realizing that it may not have the result you want.

What's causing your anxiety and driving you to engineer an answer or an ending right now? Something is stirring you deep inside...

[2ndtimearoundCA]

I haven't heard from my w in about three weeks now. During that time I sent two text messages that got no response.

We will eventually have to communicate again because we still have a few financial matters that we need to deal with... And we are still married with nothing filed.

So she is taking space and I will give it to her now.

I don't know why she suddenly went cold, so I do a lot of mind reading.. I could post my fears here, but there is really no need. My fears are true or they are not.

Since my w is not communicating, I doubt I would get an answer if I asked. And the asking itself would probably do more harm than good even if I got an honest answer.

I felt like I had a window opportunity for beginning a new relationship with my w and right now I feel like that window has closed. Another may open in the future or it may not.

I am letting go of my w, while remaining open possibility that things can change.

I am going to try to shift the focus of my thread to me.

[2ndtimearoundCA]

Recall Wednesday I sent the following text to w:

Clearly you have been abducted by aliens. Hopefully they are cool, sexy, and look like Mathew McConaughey and not creepy ones like from Independence Day. Please message me when you are released and let me know that you are ok.

W just responded: the aliens have returned me ... Lol ... I'm sorry I haven't kept in touch lately. I have thrown myself into my work in an attempt to make my boss happy. I think it might be working. The only problem with making her happy is that I don't have a life outside of work. How are you? Busy?

[2ndtimearoundCA]

Help. What do I do with that??? .. Maybe the is a "duh"moment .. I guess I would tell someone else to say "glad you've been released. Yup. I am busy. Have a great weekend"

Her text coming now ... She may be looking for a last minute happy hour tonite.. (4:45 local time) If I send what I said above she won't ask. I could just say "glad you've been released. Yup busy with work" ... Then she might ask .. And then I could be busy or not. Maybe I need to be unavailable.

[FlyOnTheWall]

Damn dude, NO FEAR, ask her to meet you for drinks, worse that can happen is she says no?

[FlyOnTheWall]

You should have a HUGE smile on your face right now, it should be easy to get thru the evening now. Have some fun.