Icecoldw, not being a doormat, is not allowing the W to use you. You can still not ask questions, still act as though it isn't affecting you and still not get into an argument. What you need to do is simply stand up for things if it gets too much against your normal expectations. For example: if you continued to allow your W to come into the house and remove things without setting a time or day, and without knowing what is being taken. It is allowing a set time, usually 48 hours is what the forum tends to use, between texts, emails and returning phone calls. Rather than replying asap. Your main plan of action is to improve on yourself: keep fit, wear good clothes, shaved and cologne. It is for you to do the 180's, have a PMA and start to GAL. Most importantly, it is to learn to validate your W.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
