Honestly I can now see that it is going to be extremely difficult to fix this right now. Not impossible but it's going to take awhile.
Her H broke her trust by drinking and getting violent. She tried to fix it but ultimately couldn't. I don't think you realize how important your relationship was to her. It probably took alot of strength and courage to open herself up to being loved again so the fact that you not only cheated on her once but twice is a tough sell.
I can only imagine all the emotional and psychological damage your W is going through right now.
I can now see why she doesn't want to contact you at all. She doesn't want to get hurt any more.
Right now begging and pleading your case isn't going to do any good because you betrayed her twice. How old is your step-D? Do you get a chance to talk to her? Did your W have any contact with her XH?
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