One of the people I was trying to help on this board had an H who was cheating on her. At some point she stopped pursuing him and started to GAL. At one point he called her on her cell phone because he needed something and she was at a party with music and merriment going on in the background. He said "where are you?" and she said "out with friends" and politely ended the conversation. That was the turning point to him coming back home. Time to assign your W to kid duty a few nights a week so you can go out too. If she won't do it, get a baby sitter.

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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015