So if there is one, I don't think she would think it would be any use to come back. I know pure speculation on my part. I guess I am not to the point yet to think it's ok for the s to have an a, I know in a lot of cases it part of the process, maybe my expectations are too high
It is not okay to have an A when married. It is not okay to be a doormat to the A spouse. If you think you are defeated, then you will act defeated. That is not okay if you expect a future with her.
This will take hard work for both of you. Don't be jealous of her b/c when it hits her....then she will have added issues to deal with. In the meantime, you don't use a substance as a crutch or to hide behind b/c that doesn't spell work.
Until you have a personal plan with set goals (just for you) then you probably won't get up and really start to work.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
