Another issue about detaching, is that i feel responsible towards my daughter to be available. It is really hard for me to just up and leave and not let them know where i am going.
Detaching is not leaving... I've seen somewhere on the forums it put something like this:
I like to think of my life having a steering wheel. I let or even put other peoples hands on my steering wheel. They then can control or I react. I imagine myself physically taking off everyones one by one (parents, Childerns, Wifes) The only person who has hands on my steering wheel of life is me.
Sometimes when we keep others hands on our steering wheel. When we crash or when things go wrong we can blame. When we blame we learn nothing. If I am going to have crashes in life then I better learn every little thing I can. This is where the golden nuggets in life are contained and are priceless.
CC, your daughter is connected to you, she will see you detach and become happy as you do the things that make you happy. This will teach her a valuable lesson. You have power in this sitch, you are in control of your life. You react to nothing unless you choose to. I don't know about you but that is D@mn attractive in my book! What woman wouldn't want a confident, sensitive, well founded non reactive man that can stand as a beacon in the storm of life that is beating on everyone and the waves are tossing the world and those in it to and fro and say "Hear I am, I am light, I am unmoving, I am happy, I know who I am."
This is what I am coming to terms with in my sitch with detaching.
We are all creating our story, our legacy. What story do you want your children to tell?
Groov
Me:35 W:33 D:6 S:4 M:13 years BD:W Moves Out with D6 S4 7/25/13 EA: Confirmed 12/12/13 Divorced: 11/7/2014
