Afraid I have waited too long

[melissag]

She had been wanting children for about 7 years and I kept saying we couldnt afford it right now. Extremely stupid of me I know.

We both knew that each other wanted kids we just never discuss it the way a married couple should.Because of a lack of communication skills we just swept under the rug and it obviously built up a lot resentment in my W.

Many of us have issues that we didn't take steps to correct, or took only all the wrong steps to correct. We are all guilty of running down cheeseless tunnels. It is good to see where you went wrong, but doesn't do any good to beat yourself up about it - so don't.

If I were wanting a D like my W. I don't think I could keep in touch with her family because I would want to detach from my past as fast as I could. Does this mean that she possibly is confused and does not know if she really wants a D because she would risk losing all that she has had for the last 15 years?

Big rule around here - don't try to read her mind! (I know, it's much easier said than done.) You will be wrong the vast majority of the time, and you will only drive yourself insane. Nobody here can read her mind any more than you can, either.