I was a lousy husband as well- I was too busy with doing things, for us, that WE agreed upon, to make our lives better in the future.
Folks would always say "Marriage takes alot of work". I never understood what those people meant.I never "worked" at it....but boy did I work- so much that I never spent time with my family.
Listening to my employees talk about their sitch's - many work opposite shifts of their husbands...It so much easier to see the warning signs of what lies behind the upcoming hills of their lives.
FYI- I was referring to your wife as the victim- not you
you and I got BURNT!
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13