I tried meditating early on and I found it helpful but I find it difficult to set aside a half hour in the evening and impossible in the morning. I will have to make a greater effort.
Exercise is a great help to me. Weightlifting a little less so because while you're focused on nothing but the iron when you're lifting, it wanders on the rests between sets. I think I need to get out on my bike more.
AnotherStander: I know what you mean about idle hands, that is what is so difficult about meditation for me too. Even when I focus on the meditation, it sometimes feels like the background processes in my brain are still free to wander. I have a guided meditation app for my phone that is fairly helpful in keeping me focused. Much more so than if I were doing it on my own.
Originally Posted By: Postivespin
ll tell you what......
Stack 2 cords of firewood and you will be thinking about nothing for the rest of the day.
Oh man, I'd love to be doing that right now. I remember helping my dad with that back when I was young, what a sense of accomplishment when you're done! Good, honest physical labor.
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Oh, wait you live in WARM SUNNY CALIFORNIA where you can ride a bicycle, walk, jog- bastage !!!!!! smile
Yes, it's been incredibly dry and mostly sunny here so far. It has my permission to rain now that I got my new Red Wing boots though.
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Seriously, did you honestly think she wouldnt continue down the dishonest path she was on?????
When she dropped the TRO and briefly talked to me, I began to hope. Silly me. To have to sit in court and listen to her make all these crazy accusations makes me sad, much sadder than I would be if we were just divorcing amicably. It's a sad and ugly enough situation without having to make more so. I wonder if she has actually convinced herself and believes the nonsense she is spewing or if she is doing it consciously. I honestly don't know which one would be worse.
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Im starting to think (and I dont know everything) that she did you a favor by leaving you.
You're beginning to sound like others in my life. I don't know, man, I don't know.
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From my seat, she gave you a gift. Remember, Its NEVER the victims fault.
I know. Like I've said many times before, I was planning on making 180s right before the BD, but I don't think I would have come as far as fast without going through this hell. I would not think of myself as a victim, though. I was no saint. I was a pretty lousy husband.
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Your a good Man!
I hope you're right.
Lefty
PS: New low today: 169! I've officially lost 40% of my starting weight!
