Wife says she wants to leave

[Groov]

One of the Problems that I am currently having is "going dark".

I feel like a big part of the initial issues that my wife had was that i neglected her, and that i wasn't around enough when she needed or wanted me.

But now she tells me that she needs space and doesn't want to feel suffocated.

I hear you on this one, I have felt the same in my sitch. Although, "Going Dark" may be too extreme in your sitch. Lovingly Detach is what I am doing. I just try not to let their or anyones sh!t mess with me anymore. Groov is happy, no matter what is spewing forth from anyone especially W.

This has been a huge 180 for me. As I have always been attentive to what others thought of me. Now I only care what I think of myself. I am working hard on only letting myself and (higher powers) define who I am.

I think in your sitch when your W reaches out to you, you be attentive, actively listening, Reflecting, Validating and if you can Empathize. It's not neglect if they want their space.

I hear you though, I struggle with the same complaints from my W.

Keep DBing, you read DR yet?