General question here. How do you tell the difference between baby steps of progress or just your positive attitude fooling you into thinking it is progress?

I see my W talking to my family or sending cards for Birthdays after the S as a positive. She said when we S that I was taking my family away from her. I told her this wasn't true at all. She knows that my Family loves her like one of their own and always has. If we would actually ever D I don't think that my family would be quite as nice. They would not ignore her but they wouldn't go out of the way to help her out I don't believe.

If I were wanting a D like my W. I don't think I could keep in touch with her family because I would want to detach from my past as fast as I could. Does this mean that she possibly is confused and does not know if she really wants a D because she would risk losing all that she has had for the last 15 years?

Me 47/W 34
T 16 M 13
No kids
BD 6/2013
W asked that I move out 6/2013
I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013
separate beds not much talking
Served D Complaint 5/2014
W moved out 9/27/2014