Thanks Cadet. It is a lot to process, but things are going well. I feel like there is oxygen in the room again. When I was living with her, I was suffocating.
We have 3 kids with a 50/50 custody arrangement, so going dark is not really an option. She calls me a couple times a day. The calls are cold and borderline rude. They always involve her wanting something from me; usually money and kids scheduling.
I don't think she understands what it means to be divorced, or what custody means. On Tuesday, she called and said D6 was sick and wanted me to stay home from work with her. I explained that I had a busy day at work and that since it was her week that she would need to stay home. She got mad at me and hung up.
This weekend she has plans. She won't tell me what the plans are, but she wants me to take the kids for the weekend. I said fine. I counted 21 days this month that I will have the kids. I enjoy having my kids, but I wonder how it makes them feel. I also feel used, paying her $700/month child support.
My L said to just document everything and we can revisit the custody arrangement in a year.
Establishing a new relationship with my STBX is difficult, but everything else in my life is going well. I am excited about the next year and my new life. I am ready to put the last 2 years behind me.
