On the brink...

[NTX_Dad]

Jon - I think this is a good example of why you need to take things slow. You need to find yourself, your W needs to find herself, and you both need to work together to redefine your relationship. It's kind of like starting over. Of course you know trivial things already about each other - favorite music, colors, etc. But now you need to take the time to dig deeper to see if you are really compatible. Sure the ML is apparently pretty great, but there's way more to a solid marriage outside the sack.

I can also share with you that for several months I felt that maybe my W coming back was her plan "b" and that I was a consolation prize. It took several months for me to figure out and reassure myself that was not the case.

It sounds like you are doing well, so keep on keeping on!