Originally Posted By: sthelen
He told me yesterday he's "very confident" in his ability to do it, whatever that means.


Sounds like he's trying to convince himself it's true!

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I'm not sure why he needs so much time. Would anyone with more experience like to make a guess there?


If they're in love and OW doesn't know he's second-guessing, then he may just not want to wreck her holidays. There's nothing like losing your SO to really put a damper on Christmas! Of course there's also the irony that Christmas is about celebrating Christ's birth, and doing so with one's affair partner seems maybe a tad bit inappropriate, but I digress, LOL!

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I'm certain one text/ call or email from me would send her packing but I'm not going to do it. He made this mess, he can clean it up.


You are absolutely right. It's a big step that HE has to take, it is an important part of his journey.


Me: 60 w/ S18, D24, D27

M: 21 years; BD: 06-14-12; S: 09-10-12; D final: 03-17-14; XW:57