Hi all. I'm new here.

[melissag]

2TH, for me anyway, it would help if you would set up a signature. It helps to job people's memory about your situation so they don't have to go back and read your original posts. Sometimes people don't have time to do this, so they might not bother responding at all.

As for your 180 of going out with her friends . . . be careful not to use 180s to turn yourself into someone you're not. You really want 180s to be things that are consistent with who you are. If you just plain don't like going out with her friends, then (a) you might have a crappy time and she will notice - this will backfire as it will only prove to her what she already sees in you; and (b) more importantly, 180s should be things that you can maintain if you R. You don't want to do things that you aren't into just to get her back, and then quit once you R.

Are you in IC? It seems to me that might help. It sounds like you have some issues to work on yourself - we all do!