It was the nice version of H that turned up last night . He arrived early, just after dinner as scheduled, for a change. He also said he had the Costco card with him if I still needed to go, so the three of us went shopping. On the way back H suggested we stop off for a drink - and he paid. He was chatty and friendly all evening, no complaints about being broke, no nasty comments about my dad and no references or conversations about OW. Complete opposite to the night before.
He did try very briefly to talk S13 out of going to the Santa Claus parade on Sunday, but S13 stood his ground and wouldn't change his mind. I'd had a talk with him a few days ago explaining that any and all contact with both his dad and OW are completely his decision and that neither his dad or I can try to force our opinion about it on him. He did seem concerned about standing up to his dad, but I told him that in this case it was perfectly fine, that there are times when it would be wrong (ie, disciplinary talks) but other times when he would be expected to have a decision and to take a stand.
And S13 did tell H that he was welcome to come with his if he wanted. H just said "thanks, but no thanks". I won't be telling S13 that his dad won't do anything he sees as family time, unless of course it's his suggestion (like the drink last night, or when he has suggested brunch on a Sunday).
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
. He arrived early, just after dinner as scheduled, for a change. He also said he had the Costco card with him if I still needed to go, so the three of us went shopping. On the way back H suggested we stop off for a drink - and he paid. He was chatty and friendly all evening, no complaints about being broke, no nasty comments about my dad and no references or conversations about OW. Complete opposite to the night before.