I've looked at life from both sides now

[RosaLinda]

I had a similar situation with my IC, Raine. She did not believe in mid life crisis, and said everyone goes thru a mid life transition. And claimed that the label "MLC" is just an excuse for bad behavior. 

I told her I had read that people are more likely to experience crisis if they never formed a strong healthy sexual identity because they either (a) did not have the chance to have their hearts broken a couple of times during their teen years or (b) experienced great trauma during these years. 

That it was normal to experience the stages of grief in response to growing older and realizing one would never accomplish all he or she set out to do. But if these people with a weaker sexual identity experience a second trauma, especially a death, they can go into a deep depression, and experience an emotional crisis of identity, self confidence and doubt. And it can cause a break with reality. 

That was my understanding of it. She did not "buy it" but did some research and had changed her mind by our second session :) 

I'd be interested in the vets' 5 minute explanation. I hope the session helps you Raine.