Me 13 months on, affair finally confirmed.

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Replies are fine with me TTD180. Just was thinking aloud rather than whinging or being angry.

While running tonight and thinking about things (running does that to you), I thought about how the W hated her dad for having an affair while still with the mum. The mum is now remarried for the last 30 years. And realised the W has done exactly what her dad did, had an affair while married. I was thinking back to before BD and started to realise also how many things may have been done to get rid of me asap.
The wife got me on AD's a few months before BD, then she wanted me to transfer back home to the city so I could be better and not so stressed and/or depressed. Then the night she called the cops on me, when I left the house without telling her, maybe she was more worried I was going to do something through guilt rather than anything else.
She had planned the pretending to move into the other teachers accommodation, and never did.
It all starts falling into place, and while I know back then I wouldn't have realised it, it makes me feel stupid now.
I also feel some form of anger, not too much, that she most likely was having the affair before BD. In a way I hate her for that. I also detest how the family has supported her throughout this separation time and more than likely will still support her now, knowing she was the one who had an affair and lied for over a year about it.
I wonder if my sons would even tell me what their Mum did, or is doing (being in a relationship) once they know. Or will they keep it to themselves, without a worry.
All these things are like going through the BD again. Except I have learnt a lot in the last year, so it isn't affecting me the same way as it could have.