Hi all having a bad day questioning myself.. every step of the way so he is still seeing the OW. His sister suspects. We don't talk aboout it.
I can't give any ultimatums.. he said the marriage was finished before they began the affair ( maybe in his head.. which is what I read is how affairs are justified.. whatever ..I can't change his thinking)
so he lives on the other side of the country and the plan was that I should relocate in summer. I was approached to apply for ajob back at my old workplace and I have. So do I tell him? On the one side he said me living with him would not work for him so I am not assuming that but that I will have to get my own place. That would be Ok I have a better support network there anyway and if he is going to really formally separate or divorce w need to sell this house ( I have no idea what he is thinking- he said he can't plan and is living for today) But will it appear as pressuring and organising and controlling
the other side is he felt like he could not trust me or believe me so if I don't tell him then it is demonstrating that he can't trust me because I don't share important things with him..
I have goals one of which is that he will be relaxed when we are together and that I will only organise myself and begin to build trust in small things.. which way to jump? Any ideas..
Is there a chance this is salvagable.. I am working on myself, GAL and having coaching but I miss him who he was and how it was between us.
