The others are right K, moving on does not necessarily mean giving up hope. It simply means living your life for yourself and your boys without your H in your life for now. Maybe one day, he'll come back and maybe you'll still be open to that.
Get yourself whatever help you need, financially and emotionally. Don't try to muddle through everything on your own. There is help out there, you just need to ask.
You can get through this. Stay strong.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I agree with all the above posts as well k Take care
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I just want to say thank you to all my friends on DB for always being here for me and always helping me get thru my downs and always giving me lots of encouragement to move on. I know I still have a very long way to go. I'm going to try to meditate tonight by listening to soothing music in completely darkness. I have the night to myself my boys are with their dad and I already miss them so that is my plan for tonight. I'll let you all know how my night went tomorrow. Have a good night and I'll talk to everyone again soon.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Hi K You sound so much better today Hope the meditation goes well and remember we're here for you (((hugs)))
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Well last night was really nice and relaxing. And for myself i passed my first step on letting go; H had sent me a texted message something about the cable company and I did not respond back and tonight I had to take MIL to the funeral home one of her close friends father had psssed away and H had stop by MIL house and I did not look or say one word to him at all. I know that is not a nice thing to do but at this time I really don't care anymore. I'm just tired of waiting and hoping that things will change. So if H text again and if it does not have anything to do with The boys I will no longer respond back at all. Well that is it for now. Have a good night
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
kelela, look and see if you can find a local support group. I just looked online under divorce and separated support groups. there is one near my house that I go to. It helps a lot. Your boys are most important. be strong for them. I know how hard it is. A day at a time. right?
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
I agree with willbwell and if there was a local support group near me then I'd definitely go You will get to meet others in similar sitches and you can normally take your kids with you as well Hope you're ok Keep Well
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I also agree with the others. You should check whether there are any local support groups you can connect with. If nothing else, it'll give you a chance to connect with others who fully understand what you're going through (like us here on the forum) while getting out of the house.
Stay strong .
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
Take care