Thanks Barb. I too fear getting sucked into the drama so you're not being harsh when you say that. We both care about each other and there were some very special things in that relationship, things we'd both like to have back. Unfortunately, the other stuff doesn't seem to change and that slowly just grinds me down. I just talked to my Mom and told her about today and she said "You're just too sensitive and emotional about these things" Uh, thanks Mom. Geez.