I need some advice: if W would let herself sink that low, and all of a sudden have a wake-up call, and now be so unbelievably committed to me, can she even know what love is?
Put the shoe on the other foot. How many times were you "done" with your W? Didn't you go on a date? Didn't you tell her she was a wh8re, a b!tch, etc? Those are things that most people who are in love and committed to each other don't do to each other. Angry or not, calling your W a wh8re could be considered sinking pretty low. So I guess she could ask the same question of you if she took the time to think about it.
When people are hurting to the point it becomes unbearable, they make poor choices and do things they normally wouldn't do. This is how most people end up in an A, their M is causing unendurable pain for whatever reason. The A is not the problem and is not what needs to be addressed. Yes, your W needs to prove herself to you and help you rebuild your trust. For the long term success of your M, you need to figure out what the issues were that led to the A and work on those together, changing what didn't work.
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
